One of the reasons okcupid just depresses me:

Is answers to questions like this.

Q: When men show extra courtesy toward women (opening doors, pulling out chairs, etc.), this is:

A: Sexist and insulting; women are perfectly capable.

Now, I can appreciate there are circumstances that this may be appropriate. But it’s a fucking chair. Or a car door for god’s sake. Some people, funnily enough, aren’t trying to say you’re incapable, some people are just nice. I have never, NEVER, got my feminist hackles up because some guy opened a freaking door for me. Or because my boyfriend, once or twice, has pulled out a goddam chair. Cause I opened a door for someone the other day. And the female head waiter at a restaurant I went to recently, pulled my chair out for me. 

What does it mean when a woman does these things. Are they ok now? I think we’ve gone past the point where stupid, stupid little things like this become a massive issue in the feminist sphere. It seems so ridiculously petty. People open doors for each other. Sometimes they pull out furniture for each other as well. People. Not men or women. Perhaps we see men do a little more often, but that’s how a lot of them have been raised. By their mothers. I’m not going to freaking stamp all over old school chivalry, which seems to be happening a lot lately, but that’s besides the point. I’m a chick, I do these things for men and woman and it’s sure as hell not a fraking reflection of ‘what I think they’re capable of.’

ARGH.